There are no rules to define what is good sex and what is not. It varies from person to person.

Discuss with your partner how often, how long, where and how you have sex. Together you can find a sex life that you both enjoy. If necessary, you can also talk to a health professional.

Also talk about your limits. You do not have to do or like everything.

Couple talking in bed.

The frequency of sex changes in the course of a relationship. Sometimes, couples have sex more often than at other times. This is normal.

Everybody’s desire for sex is different. Your sexual desire can also differ from one day to another depending on your mood, the atmosphere and your arousal.

Er bestaan geen regels die bepalen wat goede en slechte seks is. Iedereen beleeft seks op een andere manier.

Bespreek met uw partner hoe vaak, hoe lang, waar en hoe jullie seks hebben. Zo kunnen jullie tot een seksleven komen waar beiden van genieten. U kunt, indien nodig, ook met een zorgverlener praten.

Praat met elkaar over jullie grenzen. U hoeft niet alles te doen of leuk te vinden. 

Koppel praat in bed.

Hoe vaak u vrijt verandert in de loop van een relatieKoppels hebben in sommige periodes meer seks dan in andere. Dit is normaal.

Het verlangen naar seks is bij iedereen anders. Uw seksueel verlangen kan ook elke dag anders zijn, afhankelijk van uw stemming, de sfeer of de mate van opwinding.  

More information or help needed?

General practitioner
You can talk to a general practitioner about every intimate topic. If necessary, a general practitioner can refer you to a specialised health professional. Refugees who have been granted (temporary) asylum choose a general practitioner in their municipality. Asylum seekers in an asylum seekers’ centre can consult a general practitioner at the centre.
Sexuologist
You can visit a sexual therapist for help with sexual problems. This is not reimbursed by the standard package of health insurance (basisverzekering). It may be reimbursed if you have additional insurance.
Korrelatie
If you want to talk about personal topics as relationships, your feelings or sexuality, you can call, chat or mail anonymously with Korrelatie.
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